GIRLS, Don’t fake it up, Stand up and make it up!

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Recently, there have been many cases where Girls are putting fake allegations on guys and as our law is partial towards girls, some innocent guys have been suffering.

Yes, I am also a girl; yes, i have also been eve teased; yes, i also understand that pain; yes, i know there are many situations when bad comments are passed on us on the basis of what we are wearing. But I also understand that the way girl’s reputation is important  in society, same is for guys too! You cannot blame any guy out of revenge taking advantage of law, showing others that girls are weak. This is Pathetic. This is insult of all those girls who have been fighting for so long for their rights and justice.

“Strong women don’t play victim, don’t make themselves look pitiful and don’t point fingers. They stand and they deal!”

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My Mind, My Body, My Choice

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I am not going to give a speech on women empowerment or something similar to deepika padukone’s video. But this is just a feeling of a 16 year old girl i.e. me.

Why girls are taught shame. Close your legs, Cover Yourself? Why girls are taught how to behave? Why girls are not allowed to go outside home after sunset? Why girls cannot be pride of family? Why girls are taken as a burden? Why girls are said- “ye to paraye ghar ki ho jaegi”?  Why girls are not given equal freedom like their brothers? Why girls are not independent of their decisions? Why girls are discouraged for every outdoor activity or sports saying YOU ARE A GIRL? Why even if a rape takes place, the girl is blamed for wearing wrong clothes or bad gesture? Why a boy having many girls around is referred as CASANOVA and girls having many guys around is referred as SLUT? Why anything bad done by a boy is referred as cool and something bad done by a girl is referred as SHAMEFUL? Why boys drinking Alcohol or Smoking is FUN and girls doing the same is DISGRACEFUL? Why girls even after facing so much difficulties don’t get the respect they deserve? Why girls have to go through so much pain and yet are made feel as though by being born female, they are already guilty of something? Why girls grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire, who silence themselves, who cannot say what they truly think?

These are the questions which every girl has in their mind and i have not brought various important issues like female foeticide, girl education and all. But these are the questions of a 16 year old girl living in National Capital. Can anyone answer?

Now there is a strong urge to make a change in mindset and I request all the men to think think and think.. what is the girl’s fault? Why can’t men change their mentality so that every woman can live peacefully and happily. And i would like to ask all the girls to move forward and take the initiative for a change. Because if we won’t step forward then no one else will bother to take an initiative.

Strong women don’t play victim, don’t make themselves look pitiful and don’t point fingers. They stand and they deal. #Bethechange

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Will the cheap disgusted mentality of people ever change?

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This is a photo of Rupali Kaur who posted this on Instagram herself and this picture was deleted by Instagram twice by stating that this picture is against the community guidelines.

They deleted a photo of a woman who is fully covered and menstruating, stating that it goes against community guidelines when their guidelines outline that it is nothing but acceptable, the girl is fully clothed, the photo is of her own and it is not attacking a certain group nor is it spam and because it does not break those guidelines she posted it again. This girl didn’t apologize for not feeding the ego and pride of misogynist society that will have her body in an underwear but not be okay with a small leak, when the pages of Instagram are filled with countless photos/accounts where women (so many who are underage) are objectified, pornified and treated less than human.

Women bleed each month to help make humankind a possibility, her womb is home to the divine, a source of life for our species, whether she choose to create or not but very few times it is seen that way. In older civilizations this blood was considered holy in some it still is but a majority of people, societies and communities shun this natural process. Some are more comfortable with the pornification of women, the sexualization of women, the violence and degradation of women than this. They cannot be bothered to express their disgust about all that but will be angered and bothered by this. We menstruate and they see it as dirty, attention seeking, sick, a burden as if this process is less natural than breathing, as if it is not a bridge between this universe and the last, as if this process is not love, labour, life, selfless and strikingly beautiful.

This image was a part of a photoseries project by Rupali Kaur for her visual rhetoric course. You can view the full series and read the full article at http://www.rupikaur.com

INDIA’s DAUGHTER

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Why We Need to Watch Leslee Udwin’s Documentary India’s Daughter?

An illogical, misguided outrage has gripped India. Indignant people are railing against a rapist given primetime TV slots, so the country can know his point of view. How is it — angry people are demanding — that channels be so TRP hungry, they’re willing to allow this disturbed man’s innermost thoughts be broadcast on TV? What do they hope to get from this, other than insult the memory of the one who has been immortalised (against her wishes) as India’s Braveheart? ‪#‎nirbhayainsulted‬ they hashtagged, when we gave her rapist so much publicity.

So, you are outraged that a documentary on rapists has been made, and is being broadcast. You, and your sensibilities, count themselves among luminaries in the feminist movement, the government, other activists and lawyers. You think the FIR filed by the police saying this film “contains offensive content which should not be broadcast in the interest of maintaining public order,” is absolutely correct, and this kind of free publicity should not be given to rapists, to avoid copycat crimes.

But do you know what outraged me more than a rapist saying, “she should not have fought back when she was raped”? The fact that this man thought women in India were made for housework, and housekeeping, and roaming in discos and bars at night was wrong.

What shocked me more than this rapist/monster/demon being interviewed on primetime TV, was that his lawyer — a man NOT in jail so we can’t automatically demonise him as a criminal and bay for his head in a noose — compared the victim, and by association every woman on the streets of this godforsaken country, to sweets on a streets getting eaten by dogs.

These are not views held by psychopathic killers, dear offended people. These are views held, in varying degrees of militancy, by a majority of this country. Which is why the rapist has, as Leslee Udwin stated, no remorse. He doesn’t think he and his friends did anything wrong that night, because the girl was asking for it… doing the wrong things, wearing the wrong clothes.

Instead of being insulted that this British journalist doesn’t want to make films on rapists from her own country, and trying to hide from (and hide) the horrors of this man’s mind, should we not try to understand why rape happens? No amount of foreign aid towards women’s causes, laws, or death penalties on one level, and advise to cover up, not be on the streets at night alone, self-defence classes and safety apps on another, will help us if we don’t exhume the problem. Men, and their sense of male-ness.

How about for once we turn the focus around. We talk about men, the rapists, the law makers, the police. We address everyday misogyny in men, both conscious and unconscious, so they learn to be less like the “thorns” that attack the “lovely flowers” that are women. Those are analogies from the defence attorney himself, I kid you not.

As a woman I am sick of having to take on all the responsibility of protecting myself. I am sick of apps that help me get home safe, and aid to save the girl child. I am sick of self-defence classes, and CCTV cameras. I am sick of mace, and pepper spray.

Educate men to stop raping. Put money into that. But before we do that, let’s understand what makes men and society at large, think that it’s okay for women to bear brunt of saving ourselves against assault, with a series of preventive measures that hinder our lives.

Why should men not be banned from walking the streets? Why are they considered so uncontrollable? Men are also intelligent beings who can think, read, learn and understand. We don’t live in a jungle, with unpredictable animals. And even animals have rules.

It’s time campaigns were aimed solely at them. It’s time to Save the Boy Child — from becoming a rapist, at the worst, or a misguided friend insisting you shouldn’t leave work late at night, at the best.

And it’s only through documentaries like India’s Daughter that we will be able to begin understanding how a rapist’s mind works, what propels him to act in such a way, what his context is.

I am sick of bandaid measures. I want to watch that documentary. I want to understand why rapes, sexual assaults and harassment happens. What drives men across our country to commit these crimes, every single day? Why is violence against women such a huge problem, with no cure in sight?

And then after this understanding, I want a solution to these problem. So stop wasting time in parliament, oh hallowed MP, stop wasting air time with your indignant shouting, oh, over excited anchor, and let’s get real work done. And dear well intentioned police, the only offence you are causing by filing FIRs to ban the film, is to women. By letting men like him remain hidden, almost protected by law, and prison. Let the world know how insane he is. Let every crevice of his mind be dissected and discussed, and only then can we find a cure to this malady.

Like a rare angry, pro-documentary tweet said, “We need a change in mindsets.” But mindset kaun change karega? Mera sasur?” They aren’t wrong though. Change does begin at home, instead of at ridiculous hashtags like #NirbhayaInsulted.

And since we are talking for her, I think Nirbhaya, instead of being insulted would be proud to know some steps are being taken towards solving our country’s very disturbing problems of rape and violence against women, from it’s roots. From the insides of a man’s mind.

Acid Attack – A deadly burn

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The number of acid attacks on women are growing increasingly. This poses a great threat and should be dealt with utmost importance. Just a single drop of acid is enough to ruin someone’s life. The people around us judge and know us by our appearance. This act is very nasty. An acid attack does not only damage someone’s body and face, but it also takes away the liveliness and happiness of a person. It is indeed a deadly burn.

But what does the Indian government do about it? Not much, actually. The people who carry out this sinful and horrid act, are horribly fearless. Hence, there is a need for stricter and stronger laws. In India, the people do not fear the legal system at all as it is weak.
For starters, the Supreme Court of India bans illegal sale of acid. But who checks this? Does anyone actually care?
One can easily avail deadly acids. This is crazy. The authorities have very little control.
The people who carry out this act may get punished if the victim is lucky. But what about the life of the victim? What about her treatment? Her whole life is destroyed and it is very difficult to move on. The action is only taken after destruction. Measures of prevention are little.

Laws maybe there and policies may be formulated. But what India lacks at large is implementation.
Something must be done to stop this horrendous act.

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